Navigating a lesbian triad February 5, AM Subscribe About 4 months ago, my partner and I together about 7 years started dating another woman. We are starting to hit a few roadbumps in this process, and I'm having trouble finding analogous experiences or resources to help us navigate.
Snowflakes, of course. While we have been in a theoretically open relationship since we started dating, we haven't acted on that in the 6 years we've lived together. However, it did mean that the conversation has always been open, and when we met someone this past summer with whom we really clicked, we both decided that we wanted to pursue it and see what would happen.
It has been a remarkably fun and interesting time for all three of us, with great chemistry and a real sense of all being on the same page of what we want luckily our third is not super interested in a Relationship, as it were, so it's been kind of dating her, while maintaining our primary relationship. Inevitably, though, we're starting to find some things that are harder to navigate, particularly as people's feelings for each other get stronger and it gets harder to keep everything feeling equal.
I've done some initial googling, but have really not had much luck finding anything online about people in similar situations, which I do usually find helpful. I would love to hear about any resources, books, blogs, etc. I think we're all invested in making this work, but having some resources we could turn to would be really helpful. Throwaway email is happytriad hotmail. Opening Up. I personally found this book a lot more helpful and readable than Ethical Slut , but you'll probably wanna explore that one, too.
Some experience in poly relationships here, but also a straight male, so mileage varies: The thing worth seriously considering is that sooner or later, some situation will arise in which BOTH partners genuinely need you there for them, and you simply can't be in two places at once.
