All psychotherapy is very personal and requires a high level of respect and collaboration between the psychologist and client. Sex Therapy personifies this. Almost everyone has difficulty talking about this very personal area and yet many individuals and couples need help with sexual problems at some point in their life. These days the most common sexual problems includes. The most common sexual problem that couples come to PFPA for help with is differing interest in sex.
Fortunately Couples Therapy can give couples tools to effectively work with their differences and develop a more mutually respectful and satisfactory sexual relationship. Desire discrepancy is inevitable at some time in all long-term relationships. Many couples need help to develop the skills and willingness to work together to achieve sexual compatibility. The resolution of this conflict frequently leads to a greater ability to communicate about needs and desires, a deeper understanding of each other, and greater sense of mutual respect.
Seen in this way, the conflict created by desire difference is a challenge, not a catastrophe. It is an opportunity for personal, sexual and relationship growth.
Sexual desire is different for different people and there are frequently gender differences regarding sexual desire and arousal potential. To enjoy a healthy sex life you need to build a healthy relationship. To enjoy a fulfilling sex life you have to live a fulfilling life. These are lofty ambitions! Often outside help is required in order to find the path to a fulfilling sex life. Does your relationship include:. Mutual respect Trust A strong commitment Ability to communicate emotional and sexual needs A comfort with exploring a broad sexual repertoire with flexibility about initiation and exploration Each partner generally assumes individual responsibility for happiness.
The Couples Therapists at PFPA can help you create a relationship with the capacity for compromise, so that your sex life is not only mutually satisfying but truly helps to sustain and deepen your sense of intimacy and fulfillment. Realize that the partner who wants more sex or less sex is not abnormal or "wrong". Invite masturbation into your sex life. Masturbation can serve as a "valve" that equalizes the sexual pressure between partners with different sex drives.
