Fetishes fascinate me. How does a person with an erotic paraphilia a condition characterized by abnormal sexual desires, typically involving extreme or dangerous activities discover these desires? When does a man realize that he derives sexual stimulation and satisfaction from getting smashed in the balls? Was it a bad bounce on the playground? An unfortunate ricochet on the tennis court?
And once a man discovers that hammering his nut-sack turns him on, how does he find others who share this very specific inclination towards CBT cock and ball torture? Inquiring minds want to know.
Fetishism today has become commonplace enough to be considered cocktail chatter. In just a few keystrokes you can find any sort of group, club, or tribe that your dirty-mind can conjure. Finding like-minded gays is easier now, but what about then β back in the day? So how did our forefathers find their birds together with similar flocks of feathers?
One way was by using a little semiotic hanky-panky. Men wanted a way to communicate their dirty little secrets to one another, without having to say anything. So those queers did what queers do best; they took an outdated and forgotten concept and made it fabulous. As a result, the practice of stuffing a colored bandana into the back pocket of your jeans became a way of not only identifying yourself to other queers, but also signaling to them whether you were in a dominant left pocket , or passive right pocket mood β as well as which direction your sexual interest was leaning.
(mh=EN8cp3Am1H_ti9UD)0.jpg "Sluts in San Francisco")
While it was certainly popularized by the gay community, the idea of using a colored bandana as a coded language was hardly unique, or gay. For example: A light blue handkerchief worn in your left pocket signifies that you are looking to receive oral sex; wearing it in the right pocket signifies you are looking to give it. Ask The Boss. Now, that image has been scrubbed from existence and the hanky has been replaced with a red baseball cap. Believe itβ¦. Replacing the original image was a wise move, from a PR perspective.
