I think a lot of newlyweds do thisβask for relationship advice, I mean, not shit the same bedβespecially after a few cocktails from the open bar they just paid for. But then I figured that with access to hundreds of thousands of smart, amazing people through my website, I could go one step further. Why not consult my readers? Why not synthesize all of their wisdom and experience into something straightforward and applicable to any relationship, no matter who you are? What is working for you and your partner?
The response was overwhelming. Almost 1, people got back to me, many of whom sent replies measured in pages, not paragraphs. It took weeks to comb through them all, but what I found stunned me. The answers came from smart and well-spoken people from all walks of life, from around the world, each with their own histories, tragedies, mistakes, and triumphs.
I got married the second time because I was miserable and lonely and thought having a loving wife would fix everything for me. Also wrong. It really is that simple. When I sent out my request to readers for advice, I asked people who were on their second or third or fourth marriages what they did wrong the first few times. Without that mutual admiration, everything else will unravel. It is something that can be both healthy or unhealthy, helpful or harmful, depending on why and how you love someone else and are loved by someone else.
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They go into relationships with these unrealistic expectations. And more importantly, sticking it out is totally worth it, because. It expands and contracts and mellows and deepens.
