I recently went to a massage parlor for the first time, and the lady gave me a hand job, no intercourse, at the end. I felt really guilty and filthy afterward, so I am fasting a kaffarah for 3 days. I have started praying and asking Allah for forgiveness but I am still ashamed as if a part of my soul has been tarnished. What else should I do? Should I tell my wife or should I ask for forgiveness and work on being a better husband?
Your remorse and repentance are clear and I pray that you grow from this and not fall into this trap again. As for preventing this from occurring again, take these steps:. It is sinful and prohibited for you to inform your wife of what you have done.
She will be devastated and your marriage will suffer:. And it is from blatancy for one to perform an act at night while his Lord covered it, and then to wake up and tell someone that they did such-and-such yesterday, while Allah had concealed it for him. Please do your best to fulfill your duties as a husband, to lower your gaze, to pray on time, to repent regularly, gain knowledge, and to take preventive measures from this happening again. He is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Ustadha Shazia Ahmad lived in Damascus, Syria, for two years, where she studied aqidah, fiqh, tajweed, Tafseer, and Arabic. Afterward, she moved to Amman, Jordan, where she studied fiqh, Arabic, and other sciences. She recently moved back to Mississauga, Canada, where she lives with her family. Answered by Ustadha Shazia Ahmad Question I recently went to a massage parlor for the first time, and the lady gave me a hand job, no intercourse, at the end.
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