At some point in my college career, I decided that junior year was the year of relationships and internships. While going through the process of dating and finding a job, I came to the conclusion that finding a boyfriend has a lot more in common with finding an internship than I would like to admit. Here are a couple of the parallels.
But before I start, I just want to say I am not an expert on either topic, and these are just observations I have made while going through these processes. I also never really feel like doing any of these things. Tinder and LinkedIn can feel equally hopeless โ PR job! In a cool company! In the middle of nowhere? Too good to be true. It feels like yelling into a void โ I apply, and I never hear back. I match and never get a message. Same thing. Lack of communication can make you go crazy โ Both that frat boy and that flaky internship are making you crazy.
I get it. The reason is that they are not telling you when you are hearing back. I am talking holistically. Internships are the same. You are either overqualified bored at your job or underqualified stressed, scared. And on that topic โฆ. For example, if I wanted to have a boyfriend, I could. If I wanted an internship secured earlier than I did, I could. I know I am a good candidate in both senses, I guess? I have high standards for myself, the people who surround me, and where I spend my time.
But that does make the options slimmer. When it comes to jobs, it is like being here multiplies opportunities by a million. While I was overwhelmed with the number of options I had when applying, I always did it with an immense sense of gratitude. The U. Here is the deal โ sometimes it is hard for me to see eye-to-eye with most American men when it comes to dating. Latinos especially Argentineans have a kind of finesse and a way of flirting and dancing that I am drawn to we will look over the machismo for this one.
There are some American guys throughout college that I have been interested in but ended up being friends with, and I think it is that the way I am used to flirting translates as friends here. Staying optimistic is hard โ You really do need to trust the process and stop comparing your path to others.
