I have a few thoughts. We, myself included fall in to the trap of vanity and downright shallowness is that a word? Unfortunately, the games in dating, which I used to enjoy, have sometimes made me want to give up dating all together.
Spare me. Enough with the juvenile behavior. If you like someone, pursue them openly, pass on the games, and I can promise the drama will be sidetracked as well. Lastly, the pressure. The most obnoxious aspect of them all from my standpoint. My time will come, Lord willing. Dating here is difficult.
People see the value in me and I in them. These mainly apply to first dates and the preliminary activity but they can be applied at several different levels. When you see her, compliment her and make it sincere. Chew with your mouth closed. In Provo this is actually worth bringing up.
And if they do care, that chick is a golddigger and you guys probably belong together. Be patient. So many couples are happily married because they gave things a chance to work. I realize this is easier said than done because of financial circumstances but some of my best dates have been grabbing slurpees and walking around campus on a nice night in July. A casual mention is ok, but dwelling on one is a huge turn off. This is not to say that asking her with balloons, cakes, and a freaking parade is necessary, but getting a little creative and showing some effort scores some serious points.
It is awesome to be friends with someone before you ask them out as that way its not awkward and you already know you connect with them to some extent. Date anyone and everyone. You never know. If someone offers to set you up, jump all over that. Good luck! Great post!! I loved it. I want to stand out a little — not be one of 20, women who a guy can choose from. In that way, dating outside of Utah might be easier as you said even though there are fewer people to choose from.
