Posted by Sandy Weiner in dating after divorce , online dating after 40 , self-esteem in dating 26 comments. Patience is key in dating. Kathy had been dating Larry for three years. Very occasionally, as in one date every six months or so with occasional phone calls and emails in between, usually initiated by Kathy. Most women would have shut the door on Larry a long time ago.
Why did Kathy keep in touch with Larry if he showed no signs of obvious interest? Kathy, a 57 year-old tall brunette with short curly hair, liked Larry, because he was a goodhearted man. He stood out from the other men she was meeting online. She admired his character and felt he could be a good match for her.
But the timing was off for him. Timing is a crucial component in the success of a relationship. So, while Kathy was ready for a relationship, Larry was overwhelmed and having trouble making time for himself outside of work and caring for his kids. How could he possibly make time for a relationship with Kathy?
So she stayed in contact with him. And every time she reached out, he told her he appreciated her persistence and patience. Slowly but surely, the relationship began to grow. Very slowly! Larry began to make time for Kathy. They had a few dates in fairly close succession twice in one month! Kathy decided to put her cards on the table. She let Larry know that she cared about him and was ready for a relationship.
She wanted to give their relationship a chance to grow and see what develops. Good move, Kathy! She let Larry know her standards and her intention. She intended to date him exclusively. She told him to take his time and proceed at his own pace. That was music to his ears! And guess what Larry did? He started to date her more regularly. He accompanied her to some important life events, where he met her kids and her parents.
