It asks:. The other one in ten is usually just a crowd of people. Polyamory โ multiple and simultaneous sexual relationships โ means, in practice, a few high value dudes hording all the pussy. Multitudinously and concurrently. Polyamory cheerleaders, like Christopher Ryan, note the shape of our penis heads and go on to weave a happy utopia of free love where all the men and all the women get their rocks off whenever and however they wish, like the bonobos who, by the way, are territorially squeezed compared to their more prodigiously successful chimp cousins.
But he has to ignore female hypergamous mate choice and male jealousy to concoct this vision of a peaceful hedonist paradise.
The reality would be considerably darker; women would still want to bang the alpha, leaving the beta male out in the cold, clawing and scratching for rode-worn scraps, but now shackled with the obligation to help provide for kids that are likely not his own. Despite the different focuses, they both have the same theory. Men โ especially high-status men โ are going to date lots of women. I got a sample of 53 poly women, poly men, 70 monogamous women, and monogamous men.
None of these hypotheses were confirmed. For both sexes, the median person had one partner. But the average number of partners was higher for women, and there were more women with very high numbers of partners than men with the same.
Poly men were more likely than poly women to be single. However, poly men were still less likely to be single than mono men. This sample is pretty skewed since it has three times more poly men than poly women. This at least partly corresponds to there being many more men than women in the community it was sampling. Poly men might either date women from outside the community, or have one poly woman date multiple poly men in order to even the odds.
