There is nothing more painful as a parent than when you see your adult children turning away from the values that you worked so hard to instill. Knowingly and unknowingly, we are trying to mold our children in that direction.
We usually have a clear picture of how that would look as our children grow up. But the problem is they are their own separate, unique person who one day will not only be making decisions for themselves - but they will also accept the consequences of their choices.
But even though we intellectually know this, it is a rude awakening when our adult children no longer share the same views on politics, sex, gender, and religion to name a few! This incongruity sets them up to have a relationship that seems forced and awkward.
I believe all three of these responses have a deeper motivation than just recovering lost values. FIRST, As hard as it is, I have faced that I am truly flawed as a sinful parent and there is no doubt my failures have wounded my children and shaped many of their responses and choices in life.
Romans Philippians Once you have silenced shame and fear you can objectively begin to navigate the new season of your relationship with your child. Now, what is to be your new frame of mind going forward with your child? Why am I saying this?
