Family counseling, couple and individual life coaching and workshops, Bas Rhin, Alsace. The modern family goes through difficult times because the life standards are higher and higher, economical changes in our society are moving so fast. Families and couples are often keen to develop new communication skills in order to find their harmony and balance. Self-esteem develops during our childhood. In a functional family, there is a positive communication, based on mutual respect, common values and strong beliefs.
This type of family environment and the parental role-models will help the child, the teenager to express his feelings, his emotions in an appropriate way according to his own values and perception. He will be prepared to socialize, to deal with unpredictable changes in life in a positive and healthy manner. His self-esteem, his system of beliefs will be solid. In a dysfunctional family conflicts, misbehavior, child abuse occur regularly.
Children grow up in such families with the understanding that this type of family environment is normal. Dysfunctional families are often a result of co-dependent adults, and may also be affected by addictions, such as substance abuse alcohol, drugs, gambling etc. We usually tend to think that a dysfunctional family is the family in which the parents are divorced or there is just a lot of fighting.
Unfortunately, the list can continue. Children growing up in a dysfunctional family usually adopt one or more of these six basic roles:.
The Good Child the Hero : a child who assumes the parental role and tries to solve all the family crises situations. The Caretaker: he takes responsibility for the emotional well-being of the family, trying constantly to look after everyone.
