I have not wanted to compromise just to be with someone as many of the relationships I see around me would not be for me. I do however envy those people who seem to have partnerships founded on respect, care and a level of independence from each other. I am mostly content and happy with my life- I love the fact that on a daily basis I can do whatever I want! I am a first time dog owner and she is a great companion. I have followed the single supplement almost since the start and have found it truly inspiring, empowering and reassuring.
Thank you Nicola and all this community. I was so pleased to hear that you had decided to have a baby and wish the 3 of you well on your journey. Thanks so much Maggie! I am missing doing exactly as I pleased.
It was liberating to live like that. Been separated from my husband for over 5 years and been single since through choice. Before the marriage I was largely single all through adulthood through choice too but I got to my 30s and really wanted to be a parent and so did my husband.
Once kids all grown up a bit and at school we separated. I live with my three children who are all high school age and above now. Long post. Good to be here. I genuinely don't know exactly how long I've been single, which just goes to show how little it's troubling me. I could probably work it out but why bother? It'll be 7 or 8 years I'd imagine. I was married for 17 years, then in a few relationships, the longest and last being 7 years on and off. And you know, I realised that I had left every relationship worse off than I'd entered it, and I found myself looking at potential suitors and thinking, 'So what damage would you do to my life?
It's only when I'm alone that there are no demands on me - and with an adult son with ADHD and addiction issues, and an Autistic adult son living with me: well, you know, I have enough on my hands already.
