Dear Daisy is our online agony aunt, on-hand to answer your personal worries and troubles. I'm 21 years old, and have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years. We met at university and he is my first serious relationship. For the past year, I have been living abroad as part of my degree studies.
I feel like he doesn't put enough effort into the relationship and he feels like I am expecting too much. I have tried to meet him in the middle and compromise. I try not to let little things annoy me, like the fact that it is normally always me that will message him first to see how he is, or ask to Skype, because I know that he is just more laid back than me and would do it eventually if I didn't.
But he has forgotten about important events in my life, even when I remind him, and when we do see each and I am sometimes left feeling disappointed because he will spend his time doing other things by himself as opposed to talking to me or doing things together. When we discuss it he says that these things aren't a big deal to him, and so if it was the other way around and I acted as he did, he wouldn't mind.
He has so many amazing qualities and we have no big problems apart from this one. A part of me thinks that I should just accept him for who he is and stop letting it affect me so much.
But I also worry that maybe I am just too scared to lose him than to do what might be best for both of us in the long term and end it.
