Years before I ever gave a blowjob, I learned that sucking on an ice cube before blowing somebody was the very height of kink. Looking back now with years of vanilla and kink experience, I can say: Yes, bringing ice cubes into the bedroom is a great idea.
Temperature play is a type of sensation play that utilizes differentβyou guessed itβtemperatures. As with most kinds of BDSM play, incorporating heat and cold into sex can have differing levels of intensity, from low risk and less painful to high risk and more painful. Each person is drawn to temperature play for different reasons. Ember, a Bay Area-based kink aficionado and educator, especially loves the sensory experience of wax play. As always, engaging in BDSM only happens with consent and ideally with a detailed discussion about limits, likes, and dislikesβaka negotiation.
First and foremost, an experienced fire top should be first aid certified. Every fire expert mentions the importance of having a safety kit before fire play even begins, with a flame-retardant fire blanket or towel that can quickly put out fires in an emergency. Having access to burn creams is important for any scene involving heat, and tops and bottoms alike can benefit from using aloe after even if no one was actually burned.
Every fire expert mentions the importance of having a safety kit before fire play even begins. Always take stock of your surroundings and communicate with your partner.
Ian, a Washington DC-based kinkster, has a tried and true workflow when getting ready for a scene. He then gauges how comfortable they are with disrobing, keeping in mind certain synthetic fabrics can melt and burn you.
