Podcast: Play in new window. That the man in question should get out of the relationship. This article is aimed at men who are in the early stages of getting over ex-girlfriends or current girlfriends. Either you can deal with this and move forward. Nothing wrong with either one of those choices. I used to do this, and it remains one of the more shameful episodes from my own past. You are your own salvation here.
It just takes a bit of time, reflection, soul-searching, and vulnerability on your part. Simply put: it takes a bit of work. So I advise retroactive jealousy sufferers to stop talking to their partner about their past —at least for now. And stop the social media stalking as well. Getting over ex girlfriends might be stressful for you.
As I alluded to at the beginning of this article, everyone on the internet has an opinion, including obviously yours truly. But an important idea to consider is that you are your own master. You can either listen to me or not. You have the ability and, many would argue, the responsibility to determine for yourself which practices and perspectives work for you, and what you truly believe in.
You are incredibly powerful in that you can choose how to think about the world, and which values, morals and beliefs are most important to you. Why do I disagree with it?
Which particular aspect of this idea do I reject, and what might I propose as an alternative? Do your own research. Survey as many different perspectives, evidence, and theories as you can.
